There are these stages
in a normal girl’s life when she concentrates on certain things.
Of course the one
thing her life revolves around is always going to be the opposite sex, no doubt
about it. From 10 to 14 you want to be around guys so you’ll be the cool kid
who’s playing football and learning how to spit. From 14 to 18 you can’t really
thing about anything but guys because that’s what your hormones say. From 18 to
23 you’re having boyfriends because that’s the normal thing to do and after
that RELATIONSHIPS, big scary word with a lot of intricate knots.
But what about the
individual? The girl, the person?
I say 30 is the limit.
The age you draw the line for drunken parties, the carefree lifestyle, the
summer in Vama Veche, the art classes, the girls nights out. After that you’re
just a lame old hag who wants to relive her golden days.
This is why I’ll make
my friends promise they’ll never drag me to one of these shindigs after I turn
30 no matter how much I love the sea.
After 30 you climb up
the social and professional ladder and start making something of yourself.
That’s how I see a modern
woman.
I hate seeing twenty
something girls dragging crying toddlers after them in the park when I’m there
reading my book on the freshly cut grass and smoking my Lucky Strike’s blue.
And I’m not saying “hate” in the sense that I pity them, but I hate their
nagging glances, their judging glances or from time to time their “where did I
go wrong” glances.
The judging glances
come from their utter “proudness” of being a mother. Yes, kids are great. I
plan of having a house full myself and I love the children at the kindergarten
like they’re my own and I pain every time I skip a session cause I admire how
their brains work, how creative they can be, how fear free. But gully gee, I
can’t take care of myself at this age, how the hell could I take care of a kid?
Plus I’m afraid that
at this stage I’d name my kids Sid and Nancy and put blue dye in their hair
which would immediately end up with them in the foster system.
But is my thinking
throwing me back or propelling me forward?
Every time I start up
a conversation with one of my girls we end up talking about our jobs. We’re not
making enough money, we’re not buying pretty things or go to cool places
because we’re not making enough money, we’re not happy because we’re not buying
pretty things and we turn up thinking of seeing shrinks because we’re not
happy.
Shit! If I knew from
the womb that the world and my own happiness will revolve around money I
would’ve dropped hints to my mother to get me an Ivy fucking League education
since I was 2 months old. I would’ve become a bad ass lawyer or a bank manager
and all my dreams would come true.
And while we’re in the
Mary-go-round our lives fly past us like they were never there.
Am I the only person
in this whole God forsaken world who thinks money is not that important?
Put me in the Art
Museum one day a week and I’m happy as a clam. 32. 32 fucking lei a month to be
happy. Is that so hard to accomplish?
Sure, I enjoy the
occasional movie, but that can be done with 0 money at home. Plus the 2 lei on
the huge bag of popcorn from Kaufland that nobody can ever finish. And at home
you have the advantage of talking and also not hearing the asshole next to you
talking on his phone.
When did these people
who think they need money to be happy just put on some Velvet Underground, lay
on the floor and smoked a cigarette like is 1984?
I’m happy in the park.
My God, I’m happy in the park. I like to roll down the hill in freshly cut
grass or snow any time of the year.
The point is: we’re so
preoccupied with living our lives in style that we forget to live our lives
period.
I forget that
sometimes as well and I’m sad. And I feel like I’m being rejected by society
because I don’t have a grown up job, like advertising or economics, instead I
play around in watercolors with kids and go to work in my ripped up jeans and
my leather jacket and a book stuffed down my back pocket.
Let me tell you
something about my book in my back pocket: I made a plan, with a friend who’s
so obsessed with her work she sentb me home after waiting for her in the center
for half a day. As I was walking back thru the park with my book and my jacket,
so mad, that I have forgotten to put on my head phones, there were two kids
behind me, “whispering” so loud the entire alley could hear them.
“Look at the boots,
those are cool boots.” The boy said. “I like her hair.” Whispered the girl. “No
you fool that’s how is in fashion these days. It’s her phone or her tablet.”
Said the boy. And I understood that they were talking about the book in my back
pocket. As I arrived to my favorite reading spot in the park I pulled out the
item. “Awwww it’s a book, that’s cool.” The little girl exclaimed. After I sat
down they passed in front of me so the boy said, as loud as he could “But she’s
so beautiful.”
Yup. That was a beautiful moment.
And maybe I, in my own way, let my life fly
past me for not getting an upstanding job or looking to get hitched but to me
the little things are important and I have plenty of those.
Do I feel pressured by the ticking clock? Yes I do, because society norms dictate that I should. Am I going to start freaking out? No I won't.
